LOL that's a good one.

Hmm, interesting! And then we leave because they're not the person we married.

No. We married all three, and if we're not liars and hypocrites, we'll be just as faithful to all three spouses because we married all three knowing that the last one would be a surprise package. Your children are going to be a surprise package. Would it be right to hate your children simply because you did not know who they would be before you committed to having the children? People who wreck their children's family life for a roll in the hay only pretend to love their children. It's more of a self-comforting thing so they don't have to feel the agony that their children feel, an agony that drives some to suicide, fear of rejection, depression, anxiety, hopelessness, and vulnerability to all sorts of things including promiscuity, drug usage, gang membership, and teen pregnancy. However, many children of divorce don't experience every symptom there is just as people who suffer any injury or illness do not necessary exhibit every symptom. But, most parents who wreck their marriages with abuse or adultery are not interested in seeing the harmful effects their children suffer. A simple smile is usually satisfactory to tell them their children will be just okie dokie. Then when the symptoms of their children's suffering becomes obvious, it's usually too late. But, the upside of that is that someone else can usually be blamed. For example, judgmental people and faithful spouses who won't cooperate with the divorce like adults and stop objecting or stop disapproving. As they say, if parents will just handle the divorce like adults, the children will be fine, and divorce is better than staying together and fighting all the time. But, the stupid thing these lying idiots overlook is that there are more choices than just between two hells where one is slightly better than the other. Why not love each other faithfully as promised and become the honorable, mature adults that have sufficient sincerity and integrity and courage and decency and love to honor the vows as they were made? Why cast blame at others and make excuses when you can just quit lying and playing the whore on your marriage and shredding your family's heart? Why not get a little sensitivity about what others are feeling? Why be so narcissistic and hypocritical when you can honor your vows and honor yourself? Marrriage vows are not merely a hope that things won't change. Marriage is a promise to God, to society, to your family to deliver love, to deliver benevolence, to care, to stand firm through the trials and tribulations--you know, for richer, poorer, better, worse, in sickness and health til death do us part??? If you're really married, that's what you promised. How good is your word? Got backbone? Got integrity? Got sincerity? When you say "I love you", do you mean it? How about when you say it to your children? To your parents? To God? If you cannot honor your vows to God regarding your marriage, the your word really isn't worth much, is it? This is hard teaching and it is not meant to berate the victim of adultery and abuse who suffered through no fault of his or her own. This is meant for the person who can choose to stay the course and chooses to sacrifice their family for nothing more than a roll in the hay or a moment of tribulation they were too weak or insincere or cowardly to stay with. We need to get tough and stand by the vows.

i like this