some people say that if you want to successful
with the opposite sex - Just be yourself

but others say,
"The first rule of dating - NEVER be yourself,
being yourself isn't working"

it seems like we have have to choose between
loneliness and phoniness

but maybe there is another choice -
the choice of being the person we are
deep inside -

underneath all the misconceptions, self-doubts,
and bad habits that we have developed over
the years

the person who is deep inside just wants
to connect with another person, who like us,
just wants to connect

maybe we should just focus on these persons,
relate to another at this deeper level, and try not
to get caught up in our more superficial thoughts,
fears and bad habits